What Happened?

Thinking back to where we started, Alison and I had begun to ask ourselves hard questions about the abundant life Jesus promises. We told him our “yes” was on the table — we’d say yes to wherever He led us, and he led us to adoption.

We pursued three brothers from Poland for a year. As a sibling group of older children with learning disabilities in an orphanage for whom no home could be found in Poland, they ticked every box for international adoption. Our family was seemingly a perfect fit. Tag, we were it.

We chose new names for them, and prayed for them constantly. We dreamed and worked and stretched with all our meager strength towards a future with them. It looked as though it were merely a simple matter of waiting for final approval from the Polish government.

Unfortunately, this was not to be. Poland rejected us (and all families pursuing international adoption there) without providing an explanation. We appealed their decision, and we were again rejected without explanation.

The adoption failed, and there is no recourse. The three boys we had hoped to adopt will remain in Poland. Please, please, please pray God will give them a family that will love them.

Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?
— Job 2:10

So What’s Next?

We may not understand why God led us down this path to a failed adoption, but the facts haven’t changed. There are still an approximate 153 million orphans around the world in need of families. God calls us to care, and so we must. The faith which compelled us to pursue adoption hasn’t changed. We still trust in God’s sovereignty. We believe through eyes of faith that this happened for a reason. Poland may not have worked out, but there are other countries that we are considering and praying about. Our "yes" is still on the table.

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
— Proverbs 16:9