Five Thoughts on Adoption
For the first seven months of my life I didn’t have a father. I suppose you could say I was fatherless. But when my mom married the man who was to become my adoptive father, he chose to love me and welcome me into his family as an heir by adopting me and giving me his last name. He is the one who took care of me as a child, the one who tried to explain algebra to me in high school, and the one who eventually gave me away at my wedding. He has always been my daddy, and I have such a love and respect for him, and am so grateful that he adopted me.
Adoption is a beautiful picture of the gospel. Galatians 4:4-5 reads, “When the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons.” Adoption is costly. Our adoption by God the Father cost Christ His life. I know there will be a huge financial and emotional cost for Ron and I to bring children into our home.
Adoption involves changing the legal status of the child. Galatians 4:6 continues, “And because you are sons, God has sent the spirit of his son into our hearts, crying, ‘Abba! Father!’” God’s law demanded punishment for our sins. This caused us to be separated from Him, but His grace and mercy allowed for Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection to be the payment for our sins, should we accept it, and therefore gave us legal standing to be adopted as sons and daughters. Ron and I know that there will be mountains of legal hoops to jump through before we can finally bring our children home, but we also know that it will be worth it.
Adoption gives the child rights as heirs of the Father. Galatians 4:7 “So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.” Romans 8:16-17 “The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs - heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him." When we adopt any children into our family they, just like the children we welcomed biologically, will become heirs.
Adoption is something that takes thoughtful planning. Ephesians 1:4-6 says that “in love He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ.” This wasn’t something that God thought up later on as a last-minute plan to fix what went wrong. He had this planned from the beginning.
Ron and I have had a year to pray and plan and dream and will be spending another one to two years waiting and planning before actually bringing our children home. It’s a long, tedious process, but if you think about it, so is welcoming a child into your home biologically. All children deserve a loving home with a mom and dad.
I’m sure my dad never expected to marry a woman with a child, but he did. It may not seem like the simplest or the "prettiest" way to form a family, but sometimes God calls us to do things that are outside of our comfort zone. I'm glad my daddy did.