A Heart For the Fatherless


No puppies

God laid the prospect of adoption on our hearts over a year ago. This was so unexpected that we immediately began praying for direction and sought Biblical counsel from our pastor. He advised us to continue praying about it and to be still and wait on the Lord. "They're not puppies," he said. "These are children. You can't give them back." He said if it was something the Lord was truly calling us to do, it would continue to tug at our hearts. We took the next couple of months to focus on our kids and the upcoming holidays, but the desire never truly went away and we couldn’t stop talking about it with each other. 

January came and with it a renewed desire to continue moving forward with the process. As we prayed for direction we both had the feeling we were supposed to adopt not just one child, but a sibling group. Of course, we immediately thought this would mean adopting just two, because surely God wouldn’t call us to adopt any more than we could handle or provide for on one salary. 

Too small

As we looked around our home and considered all of the ramifications of bringing two more children into our home, we quickly realized while our house was just right for a family of six, there was no way we could make eight people fit comfortably. So, we did the work necessary to prepare the house for the market and put it up for sale. 

Our agent was confident it would sell quickly and for a great price, which we would need in order to put a down payment on a larger house. Months went by and we had many, many positive showings, but no offers. Keeping the house spotless with four children and a cat and having to leave the house at a moment’s notice due to a showing started to wear on us all. We had no real routine and most of our stuff was packed away in boxes so the house really didn’t feel like home anymore. 

Time marched on and it was time for the kids and I to begin a new school year. We were all very disappointed nothing had happened with the house and we began to doubt we heard God correctly. Ron and I made the decision to take the house off the market so we could begin school and get back into a normal routine. If God really wanted us to move into a larger home and adopt multiple children, He could sell a house even if it wasn’t on the market. We prayed, told Him we were putting everything on the altar for Him to use however He saw fit and we would just trust Him with the outcome. We placed our desire for adoption, a new home, and the future for our family on the altar and we took our hands off of it all and gave it all to Him. Three days later we had a contract on our house and six weeks later we moved into a larger home which could only have been a gift from Him.

Stand Still

It wasn’t about us making everything happen ourselves, God wanted to get all of the glory for Himself. He is a miracle worker. I love the George Mueller quote, “Faith does not operate in the realm of the possible. There is no glory for God in that which is humanly possible. Faith begins where man’s power ends.” Our power was worthless because we tried everything we could to sell that house and buy a bigger one, but it just didn’t work. Our house only sold after we took our hands off and gave it to God. We had to decide what we wanted more was whatever He had in store for us. The verse God gave me during this time was 2 Chronicles 20:17 “You will not need to fight in this battle. Position yourselves, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, who is with you, O Judah and Jerusalem! Do not fear or be dismayed; tomorrow go out against them, for the LORD is with you.” All we had to do was stand still and watch God work. I love that about Him, He doesn’t require us to work our tails off to earn the good things He wants to bless us with. 

Our "Yes" is on the table

The past couple of weeks Ron and I have continued to pray for direction for a specific country. In this, God has laid upon our hearts the insane possibility that maybe He wants us to be open to welcome even more than two children into our family. I know I don’t want to be the one to tell God what He can and can’t do for us or how He can bless our family. If He desires for us to adopt one, two, or six kids, Ron and I have decided we will say yes. Our pastor has always said, “where God guides, He provides.” So our plan is to be those crazy people who actually have the faith to believe God is who He says He is and to enjoy the journey He has placed us on. We have no earthly idea how we’ll end up paying for this adoption process, but as we learned in 2 Chronicles 20:17 we don’t have to worry. We just have to position ourselves, stand still, and watch the salvation of the LORD. 

God has a heart for the fatherless, and so do we.