Taking Back Father's Day
Whatever happened to "honor your father and mother?" Why does it seem that society has elevated motherhood and demoted fatherhood? Why do people crack jokes at and about fathers, while at the same time making mothers out to be saints? I especially love this post by Kristen called Fathers Are Not Idiots. Maybe it has something to do with the breakdown of the family unit, but quite frankly, I'm sick of it.
I've decided that I've had enough and I'm here to reclaim Father's Day as a day to show honor to the men in my life whether they're my biological father or not. There are so many men in my life that I'm proud to say have Godly influence over me.
Tim P. is the man whose home I grew up in and the one that gave me away at my wedding. He isn't my biological father, but that doesn't matter because he has always been my daddy for as long as I can remember. He worked tirelessly for us when I was growing up, and he provided so that my mom could stay home and homeschool me, my brother, and my sister for many years. I wish I could see him more often -- I love my dad.
Steve O. is the man who's family I married into. Over the past 14 years of knowing him I've become closer to him and love him very much. I have enjoyed the past few months of getting to know him better since he and my mother-in-law moved up here. I love that he loves my children so much and spends time with them. He makes me smile and is going to teach me to do all sorts of handy things like use a table saw, hang sheetrock, etc.
Grant C. is the man I call my local dad. We lived here for 10 years before ever having family here to help out. Grant and his wife took us under their wing and treated us like their own children. I know that I can go to Grant and ask for prayer or advice or just to talk and he will drop whatever to pay attention to me. I am so thankful to have him in my life. He is a friend and is family to me even though we aren't biologically related.
Ron is the man I call my husband. He is also the most fantastic father to our kids. After we got married he wasn't even sure he even wanted kids. He'd never been around many kids growing up, especially not babies, and the idea kind of freaked him out. But our wonderful, all-knowing, loving God had plans for Ron to be the father of many. He has four sweet babies here on earth and two babies in Heaven.
I love to watch Ron interact with our kids. He is silly and fun and introduced them to video games and art, takes them on hikes and also to day-long concerts in the blazing sun. He is a fantastic spiritual leader and sits down every evening to read the Bible to our family and pray over our children.
Just the other day I was able to watch as Ron sat with Z for a couple of hours and spoke gently and lovingly to her as she confessed something that had been bothering her for so long. He showed the grace of God to her in that moment and their relationship became stronger for it.
Ron has sacrificed so much for our family and I am grateful that God blessed me with him. He strives to be a better husband, father, and friend every day and he does that by staying in the Word and in prayer. He seeks Godly counsel and wants to be filled with wisdom, and is an inspiration to me and our kids. God is doing a fabulous thing in Ron's life and I am excited to watch it unfold.
There are so many other men that I could talk about and praise, but these are four of the most important to me right now. Not a one of them is a bumbling fool who knows nothing about raising a family or being a good man. They all deserve respect and honor. Sure, they can be goofy, but that is not what defines them.
So today, on Father's Day, I say to the men out there, "The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; The Lord lift up His countenance upon you, and give you peace." Numbers 6:24-26